Balinese traditional law which is called " adat " regulate various aspect of life, one is about the status of aman in the banjar or desa organization. As a member of the organization he is only given the full right and obligation when he has been married, following to the conduct of the adat. Since the responsibility of family is at father's hand or following the tradition of patrilineal. The purpose of marriage according to the tradition of Bali is to give freedom and limit the romance in the society which is underlying factor of the harmony of the world and heavenly structure. A man or woman ideally married once for life, nurturing children for maximum of 4 persons which is appear from the number of birth given name Although it is exist that a man married many times and the king of ancient Bali also practiced polygamy, the society consider the polygamy is a deviant. Illegal bond is greatly taboo and is forbidden by adat. In case a man and woman found to have love affair without legal marriage ceremony, they will be fined with big ceremony to clean the bad spirit might caused by this lawless action. In case illegally couple have child this child is considered impure and must be given certain ceremony to return child's nature. So that is a hard burden for Balinese who tried in offending the adat rules of conduct for love affair. Some banjars in Bali even practice night time of visit from a youth to a girl, like a curfew, that if a youth found to still hosted by a girl in her house without witness of her parents, or relative usually at that time they will be brought to the village hall and given the ceremony of marriage, and ask both parents to complete the wedding. Today this tradition has been discarded, yet practiced in more refiner ways. Marriage in Balinese does not introduce dowry like other ethnic groups in Indonesia, yet a feast, not big which is probably the influence of Christian Wedding reception is organized by certain villages, but only small number of it. This reception at some banjars sometimes need big costs as to cook big pig to various cuisines to host the relatives of both sides, and some good friends in their own banjar organization or from outside. The feast is basically only eating together the best Bali food for those who have better economy, and just standard cooking for fare economy. The work for preparation of the feast is done by families or member of the banjar who is invited with no fee. Some feast, due to time strain or other consideration hiring a banqueting service and catering a modern way to organize a feast like an even for modern wedding reception. It is not rare also the wedding reception is organized at special place such as hotel or meeting hall, after the ritual steps are completed.

Until as late as 1940s the marriage between castes were still having objection, especially woman from higher castes would not be allowed to merry lower castes. If it was happened a punishment will be given to the couple who will be exiled from his village to certain place far away. The punishment is called " maselong " During the ancient kingdom of Bali around 18th century the couple was said to be sent to Selong in central Lombok for punishment, that was the origin of the word. Basically it was the feeling of higher castes that they would feel being humiliated when their daughter married lower castes, as the status would be going down since a woman will follow her husband status based on patriarchart tradition.

The procedure toward marriage between man and woman in Bali has many guide lines such as strongly forbidden and recommended. Forbidden are among families which is still related patriarchart until at least 4 generations, brothers merry sisters for example older brother of an A family merry older sister of a B family then younger brother of A family merry younger sister of B family, and also older brother of A family merry older sister of B family, and younger sister of A family merry younger brother of B family and in turn.

Myth of sanctions for these infringement are sickness, instability or disharmony, and other imbalance of life. A married man or woman who still have love affairs with others also have punishment after death at the here after. A family is ideally giving children in the past maximum 4. While since 1970s Balinese has a strong awareness of the responsibility of growing children and limit their family for maximum of 2 children. This is the difference between modern Balinese and Javanese, South Sulawesi, and Lombok, although in the root of descendant is the same. Today almost 99% Balinese family has 2 children while in Java, South Sulawesi and Lombok a family of 40 years old can be found to have 8 to 12 children especially among poorer areas, and some at more learnt people. In Lombok with the existence of seasonal mass marriage has doubled the number of population within 5 years. An indication of high growth of Population in Indonesia outside above mentioned areas seems exist in South Kalimantan, at Banjars, and Madura island. Javanese does not yet see this critical responsibility. Some of the story concerning marriage in Bali can be seen in the form of pictures like a comic on the ceiling of Kerta Gosha the remains of Klungkung kingdom in the city of Klungkung. This place is one stop for a sightseeing to east Bali or Besakih temple. A site with information on Balinese and mariage arrangement can be visited here Wedding on Bali Diving tour to Tulamben east Bali can also stop here as it is on the way back from the site.